9 Things I’ve Learned in Life
Confidence to me is about being comfortable and not trying to be someone that I’m not.
1. Be ready to adapt and change direction at any moment.
When I first started my career, I had to learn how to change directions quickly without losing sight of my goals. When I was getting ready to launch my collection at Bergdorf Goodman, the first lipstick cases came in and the caps didn’t fit. I freaked out. My husband suggested we move the date of the launch, and we did it. Thinking on your feet is what being an entrepreneur is all about.
2. Always follow your gut.
Just because someone is more senior than you doesn’t mean you should question what you feel is right. I found myself in business meetings feeling like I should always go along with the person who had the most experience and it didn’t always work out. If you believe something in your gut, stick to it.
3. Making mistakes is about learning lessons.
I’ve always believed that a lot of the mistakes I’ve made along the way were never really mistakes, they were lessons. I never would’ve learned anything if those things didn’t happen.
If you believe something in your gut, stick to it.
4. Learn from those around you.
It’s important to surround yourself with people who are different from you. I’m like a sponge and want to learn from others, so I love working and spending time with young people who have just graduated from college and with people much older, in their 80s or 90s. You’d be surprised how much you can learn over dinner or a coffee.
5. Be nice to everyone.
You never know who you are going to meet or who knows who, so be nice, be open and be kind to everyone. I met an 80-year-old woman at a book signing and her grandson happened to be an executive producer of the Today Show. She called him up and I ended up being their beauty editor.
6. Take care of yourself.
When I was starting my business, I spent a lot of time spreading myself too thin between work and family, which made it hard to always get the job done. It’s important to find a balance between these things and making time to take care of yourself. If you have to dial things down a notch, do it. Get a massage, head to the gym or just go to bed early.
I have always believed the better you take care of yourself on the inside, the better you look on the outside.
7. Eat well.
When I moved to New York and started working as an editorial makeup artist, I’d be in the studio all day and there were these amazing, gourmet catered breakfast and lunch spreads. It was bagels, pastas and cookies - a mix of food I realized wasn’t making me feel good. So I started, even as a young makeup artist, bringing my food with me to work. I have always believed the better you take care of yourself on the inside, the better you look on the outside.
8. Eliminate negativity.
My Instagram bio says it all: FYI I delete rude comments. I love Instagram and have met a lot of incredible people through it, but social media has to stay positive. I erase any negative comments and don’t let it bother me.
9. Stop comparing yourself to others.
Women have to be kinder to themselves. You can’t compare yourself to everyone around you. You just have to be the best version of yourself. Confidence to me is about being comfortable and not trying to be someone that I’m not. It’s empowering thing when you figure that out.